Don't fix your marriage, let it go

As children bring their broken toys, with tears for us to mend;

I brought my broken dreams to God because he was my friend.

But then instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone,

I hung around and tried to help, with ways that were my own.

At last I snatched them back and cried

"How could you be so slow?"

"My child," He said, "What could I do?

You never did let go"...Anonymous

As women, we often have the tendency to fix everything in our lives. We notice a wrinkle, we apply anti-wrinkle. A stretch mark surfaces, we fight with all. Our breasts get saggy; we go all out for comfort double padded ones. I hear there are padded pants. In fact, there is nothing we don’t try to fix, from our looks to friends, to partners in marriage and children etc. If our children buzz a sound, we are on our way with a rescue mission. If we find our partner having unusual late nights, we deploy an investigative mission. Wired by our caring nature, we try to fix everything but like a child, we get in the way of God.

How many of us behave like a child with our broken toys. We want it fixed. We can’t fix it, yet we can’t let Our father, Our maker fix it. Rather than let Him fix it, we caught in, snatch back, complain, grumble or source for new help. Are you having a bad marriage? Have you considered if you are in the way of God fixing it? Are you having problems getting your relationship on the right path? Are you struggling with a rebellious teenager? Why not leave the matter with God and rest from troubles. Why are you trying so hard to get your partner to change? You are simply getting in the way with God.

Many women will tell you from experience that it does not work that way and if it does, be ready for the long haul of carrying the burden alone. Why try to devise new methods of fixing the same problem, when you have it with God? Saying it is not doing it. I remember telling God on a Sunday night that I trust Him so much but then in the morning, I was off into my plan B. Really! What was I expecting God to do? 

God does not need our hand to move. Just as a father would not watch his child cry over a favorite but broken toy; the Lord will not leave us in our helpless state. It’s high time we trust God to help us. Step from the usual human frailties and be assured that God will take care of your problems and fix them for you, whether; it’s a concern about your marriage, children, home, partner, job or business. We can absolutely trust him, irrespective of the deteriorating state of our life, be it, a cheating husband or a rebellious child.

One thing you must not forget; take it to God in prayer, trust that He will fix it, listen for his instruction and let go the rest with Him.  It’s never beyond Him. No matter how broken our life looks, He is the mender of broken things; broken lives, broken hearts, broken relationships or whatever it is in your life that is in need of repair. Don't try to fix your marriage. Long hours of talking, nagging, complaining, or whining would not fix it. Short hours of regrets and dead-end decisions would not save it. Being manipulative would not get you in the right way. All you have as a child of God is to bring your broken marriage, dreams, hearts, and visions; bring the broken pieces of your life before God. 

I always advice, if you think you are in the wrong boat, your marriage is sliding down the hill or don't seem to do it right anymore, don't do anything else. Take it to God in prayer and remember to let it go. He will fix it.

God Bless

Oluwamitomisin